True Freedom

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Our country achieved freedom from foreign rule 67 years back, but have we attained true freedom yet…?

As a life coach I come across  many people during my talks and workshops. The one thing I find common in most of them is that they are not free. Rather, most are imprisoned in the self created web of guilts, regrets, hurts, fears, self doubts, limiting self beliefs, etc. This happens with all of us. The web gets denser and stronger day by day, and a point comes when we feel impossible to break through it and get out. We become prisoners.

I know of a lady who has gone through lot of suffering in her life for almost a decade after her marriage. She was married in a joint family and was ill-treated by her in-laws. As a result she went through a lot of trauma. After about 10 years of marriage the couple moved out of the house and the family business into an independent life. But even today when we meet she talks only about those 10 years of distress in her life.

Once she told me , “I want to try your PLR therapy. I am curious to find out how my in-laws were related to me in my past birth. They have made my life miserable.”

“Sure we can. But what is the problem now? You are the master of your own life . I feel it is high time you let go of the past.” I replied.

“You don’t understand. It is easier said than done. They have spoiled 10 beautiful years of my life. How can I let go?” she said somewhat irritated.

I realized that she had completely ensconced herself in the self created web of victimhood. So much so that she was thriving on the sympathy gained from people around her and was comfortable living that way.

When we are born, we are free spirits. We can easily cry, laugh , make mistakes, forgive people, and let go. we don’t carry any baggage. Hence as a child we can experience freedom. Nothing is impossible for a small child. He is ready to explore anything because he lives in that space of ‘freedom’, where everything is a possibility.

Then what happens as we grow…? We are told, ” you are a grown up boy now and boys are not supposed to cry!” or “you are a girl, you are not supposed to laugh so loudly!”,” What will people say?”, “you should do this and you shouldn’t do this”. ” you cannot think in a particular way” and stuff like that…Our life slowly gets defined by the dos and don’ts of the society. Without realizing we get moulded in a way people  around us want us to. Even the freedom of thoughts is taken away from us. We are supposed to think how other people want us to think. Sounds ridiculous, but its true, and we start living a life of others. Slowly we start thinking that this is how life has to be lived, in a set pattern, confined and defined by the society, caged in the negative beliefs.

To experience true freedom we need to go back to the time when we were born…. by stripping off the layers of conditioning around us and letting free that inner child. Do what we always wanted to do in life rather than being dictated by others around us. We must realize our true potential to achieve greatness in life. We need to break free from the cage of dogmas, set patterns limited self beliefs, feeling of being victim, helplessness, fears, deceits and other negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, resentment, guilt, and regret….. and live as if “Sky is Not the Limit”…..  in True Freedom.

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Question life at every step

Don’t follow society’s laws blindly. Each life is different.

At the age of 4, your parents enroll you into school. After you pass out of school, you go to college. Even if you graduate, you just have to get a masters degree because you won’t get a good job until you have one. If you can get an MBA, even better! You’ll score an awesome job! After that, you have to get married and within a few years, have children. Now get them admitted into the best schools and colleges, their life depends on it! After that’s settled, get them married. Once you have grand children, hurrah, your life is complete! You can securely retire from your job so you can rest and spend time with your grandchildren. Maybe even use this time to finally think about spirituality, God and death; until the day finally arises, where you have to leave this planet. That’s life, as society dictates it.

Sounds quite fair, if that’s what you want to do in life. But millions of people go through this pre-decided process even without giving a single thought to whether they really want to go through it. Have you ever questioned yourself about what you want?

Think about this, if you only had one year to live, what would you do? In an instant, you would forget everything that anyone has ever told you and think about yourself, your needs and goals. You’d probably make a list too. So why not think about it now?

As a past life regression therapist, I have taken people into their past lives to relieve the negative emotions of those memories. I have noticed that during these sessions, most people die with the regret that they could not do what they wanted to.

That is why it is so important to question ourselves at each and every step. Are you doing something because you really want to do it or because it’s the norm? I have myself faced such a situation and made the wrong decision.

When I was in school, I liked painting, playing cricket and singing more than math and science. After every result day, I’d spend my time cheering up friends and making them smile. I was very happy doing this. But at the end of school, when I had to make a decision about what to study in the future, I was confused. My family said that boys do not take up arts, so that was out of the question. According to them, I should become an engineer or a doctor. All my friends in school signed up for the pre-engineering test, and so did I. To my surprise, I passed the test and got into an engineering college, and became an engineer by default. After passing out of college, I was offered a job in a reputed company in Mumbai, so I took it up. After 17 years in the corporate world, I realized that I am meant to do something else. But it wasn’t too late. I made a correction and became a life coach.

Like me, there are so many people who say they took up the wrong job, made wrong decisions and ended up at the place, far away from where they wanted to be.

This is why it is so important to ask, is this really what I am meant to do? Do I really want to get married, and when? Do I really want to have children, and when? Am I studying something I am interested in? I have finished my education, do I really want to get a job now, or do something else? Don’t follow society’s law blindly. Each life is different.

As parents we need to always support our children with their decisions. The upcoming generation has the potential to break society’s barriers and dogmas which have existed for thousands of years. Don’t label children, who ask why or do only what they want to, as rebellious. They are giving rise to a more inquisitive and progressive society.

 

Déjà vu and memories of past lives

Being a past life regression therapist, I am often asked, what real evidence is available to prove that we have actually lived before? My answer has always been the same – there are many! The most convincing evidence is the déjà vu experience. In fact, I would say that 50 per cent of my clients started believing in reincarnation because of a déjà vu experience.

Scientific explanations talk about how the experience is actually caused by a person having a brief glimpse of an object or situation, before the brain has completed “constructing” a full conscious perception of the experience. Such a “partial perception” then results in a false sense of familiarity.

Sure, that could be true for a few cases, but how does one explain déjà vu when a person visits a place so familiar they feel they’ve been there before. Some describe the experience as déjà visité.

During a business trip to Johannesburg, I once took a walk. After 45 minutes, I could no longer remember which way I came from. I kept walking. Something told me that if I turn to my left, I would reach a blue chapel. I took a few steps to my left and there it was. This was my first visit to the city, so obviously, I was surprised. How could this be? This wasn’t just a fluke. During that walk, I also knew how to get to the spice market and an old worn-out garage. It was like I knew the streets of the city very well.

And I’m not the only one who’s had such experiences.

A close friend once talked about his trip to a gurudwara in Punjab. He was only 9-year-old when his parents took him there. As soon as he entered, he ran inside found a large portrait of a granthi, in the passage and stood starring at it. When his parents asked what happened, he said that the portrait was of him. The parents tried to explain that it was not possible, but my friend disagreed. He told them about how he sat at the gurudwara and gave sermons. By then, a few visitors and gurudwara helpers gathered around and started asking the boy questions. Surprisingly, he had all the answers. He even led everyone to a room that the granthi lived in. This room had been locked for years. Without even entering, my friend described the contents of a box owned by the granthi. The gurudwara staff later checked and confirmed the contents just as he described. Later, he even met a son of the granthi. They rejoiced at seeing each other and caught up on lost time.

The déjà vu experience is one of the biggest evidences of the theory of reincarnation

How can these experiences be scientifically explained?

According to the theory of reincarnation, we store our memories (of the present life and past lives) deep in the subconscious mind. These memories travel along with our soul from body to body. So, when we see a place in a present life that we’ve been to in a previous life, a memory from that life activates itself and we have a deep inner knowledge or feeling that we’ve been there before.

In my case, I even confirmed having lived in Johannesburg in my immediate previous life through past life regression session. That’s the best part of this therapy; whatever we suspect can be validated and confirmed.

Don’t curse the teacher, learn the lesson

In my profession, I have come across many people, who are so disturbed by the challenges in their life that they often blame God, the universe or destiny. Yes, some people go through a lot of trauma and in their place, it is very difficult to see the silver lining. But believe me, everything happens for a reason.

We burn our karmas with the fire of wisdom and go higher on the process of our soul’s evolution.

33-year old Mansi Singh (name changed) once came to me disturbed, because of her bitter divorce. She truly loved her husband and sacrificed a lot to be with him, but 5 years into marriage, he had fallen in love with someone else. Even though they had a 3-year-old daughter, Mansi’s husband abandoned them. Mansi was completely depressed and wanted to know why this was happening to her.

We decided to do a regression in order to find her answers. Mansi quickly went into trance where I lead her to a past life that will give her the reason. She was drawn to a life 200 years back where she was a powerful zamindar (land lord) in North India. This zamindar was wealthy, and had several wives, one of whom was Mansi’s husband of the present life. In that life, the zamindar ill-treated this wife and she went through a lot of trauma and grief.

In the life-between-life state, Mansi learnt that the wife of that birth came in this life as her husband to settle the karmas between them. Once she learnt this, she had a totally different outlook towards life. She took her life head-up and accepted all the issues and challenges she was facing.

In another case, a woman complained about being ill-treated by her mother-in-law. During regression, she saw that her mother-in-law was her sister in a previous birth. In that birth, she did something bad to her sister and made her life hell. So in this life, the sister came as a villainous mother-in-law to settle the karmas. After undergoing the therapy, she understood why she was facing this challenge and could empathise with her mother-in-law. In fact, after a few weeks, their relationship improved too.

This is how Karma works. It is a natural process and an infallible law that governs the universe whether we are conscious about it or not. It may take years, even lifetimes, to fructify, but it eventually catches up with you.

However, each challenge or difficulty comes in our life for a reason. Bearing that in mind, one should know that Karma is not a law one should be afraid of. It is a gift that brings one lessons for the soul’s personal growth, and will continue to bring these lessons back around until one has learnt them. Once the lesson is learnt, the problem related to that karma vanishes. We burn our karmas with the fire of wisdom and go higher on the process of our soul’s evolution. So we should make it our endeavour to understand these lessons and not despise them.

Finding answers through Past Life Regression

My journey in the mystic world of past life regression started way back in the 90s. After I heard about a near death experience of a close friend, something changed inside me and I was driven on the path of exploration. I was intrigued by the question, “Is there life after death?” My search led me to a lot of books on this topic by various psychics. All the books were a good read but somehow I was not convinced. Being an engineer by profession, my mind would not accept anything without a strong reasoning.

The search continued. They say, as soon as you have the a query, the universe answers. I experienced this when the universe answered through teachers, books and various sources. One day, I stumbled upon Many Lives, Many Masters written by Dr. Brian Weiss. This book somehow appealed to me; more so because it came from a qualified doctor, who himself was a sceptic before he got all the revelations and it contained a real life story with validated facts and figures. This is how I was led to the science of past life regression. When I experienced it, I also found my purpose of life – becoming a healer. The journey has been beautiful, full of excitement and revelations.

Past Life Regression Therapy (PLRT) is based on

  1. The Law of Reincarnation
  2. The Law of Karma
Past Life Regression Therapy answers a lot of questions about life

Past Life Regression Therapy answers a lot of questions about life

This therapy gives all the answers that one would have about life and life after life. It explains that whatever problems we have in our present life, in the present moment are due to our past – the decisions we took, the experiences we went through or the unresolved emotions attached to certain memories. The problem could be on a mental, physical or emotional level.

In PLRT, we go to the root cause of the issue troubling us in the present and resolve it there. This experience could have been in a past life or even the present life. By doing this, we loosens its grip over our present. The symptoms slowly disappear, making our present and future better.

The additional benefit of PLRT is that karmas associated with that particular incident also burn or get nullified. This leaves you feeling lighter and makes your life better.

Through my practice as a past life regression therapist I have found that it miraculously heals unexplained fears and phobias, common ones being claustrophobia and vertigo.

It is said that at the time of death i.e. when our soul leaves our body the emotions that are intense or predominant get attached to our soul. These emotions travel with our soul through various lifetimes. These intense emotions which have tremendous energy, if not resolved over time, start meddling in our day to day life and can drive us crazy. Many times, we are at a loss to understand why things are going wrong. This is where past life regression comes as a handy tool.