True Freedom

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Our country achieved freedom from foreign rule 67 years back, but have we attained true freedom yet…?

As a life coach I come across  many people during my talks and workshops. The one thing I find common in most of them is that they are not free. Rather, most are imprisoned in the self created web of guilts, regrets, hurts, fears, self doubts, limiting self beliefs, etc. This happens with all of us. The web gets denser and stronger day by day, and a point comes when we feel impossible to break through it and get out. We become prisoners.

I know of a lady who has gone through lot of suffering in her life for almost a decade after her marriage. She was married in a joint family and was ill-treated by her in-laws. As a result she went through a lot of trauma. After about 10 years of marriage the couple moved out of the house and the family business into an independent life. But even today when we meet she talks only about those 10 years of distress in her life.

Once she told me , “I want to try your PLR therapy. I am curious to find out how my in-laws were related to me in my past birth. They have made my life miserable.”

“Sure we can. But what is the problem now? You are the master of your own life . I feel it is high time you let go of the past.” I replied.

“You don’t understand. It is easier said than done. They have spoiled 10 beautiful years of my life. How can I let go?” she said somewhat irritated.

I realized that she had completely ensconced herself in the self created web of victimhood. So much so that she was thriving on the sympathy gained from people around her and was comfortable living that way.

When we are born, we are free spirits. We can easily cry, laugh , make mistakes, forgive people, and let go. we don’t carry any baggage. Hence as a child we can experience freedom. Nothing is impossible for a small child. He is ready to explore anything because he lives in that space of ‘freedom’, where everything is a possibility.

Then what happens as we grow…? We are told, ” you are a grown up boy now and boys are not supposed to cry!” or “you are a girl, you are not supposed to laugh so loudly!”,” What will people say?”, “you should do this and you shouldn’t do this”. ” you cannot think in a particular way” and stuff like that…Our life slowly gets defined by the dos and don’ts of the society. Without realizing we get moulded in a way people  around us want us to. Even the freedom of thoughts is taken away from us. We are supposed to think how other people want us to think. Sounds ridiculous, but its true, and we start living a life of others. Slowly we start thinking that this is how life has to be lived, in a set pattern, confined and defined by the society, caged in the negative beliefs.

To experience true freedom we need to go back to the time when we were born…. by stripping off the layers of conditioning around us and letting free that inner child. Do what we always wanted to do in life rather than being dictated by others around us. We must realize our true potential to achieve greatness in life. We need to break free from the cage of dogmas, set patterns limited self beliefs, feeling of being victim, helplessness, fears, deceits and other negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, resentment, guilt, and regret….. and live as if “Sky is Not the Limit”…..  in True Freedom.

5 simple life lessons from Candy Crush Saga

Being a Life Coach, I feel every thing happening in our life teaches us a valuable lessons and this game is no exception.

Being a Life Coach, I feel every thing happening in our life teaches us a valuable lessons and this game is no exception.

I was introduced to the game Candy Crush Saga by my friends in Japan when my wife and I visited them in March. My wife was totally captivated by it since then. I saw her getting anxious about the levels she was not able to cross and the happiness when she successfully graduated to another level. Watching her enthusiasm towards this game, I did not realize when I got hooked on to it. I started playing and crossing levels and moving ahead. Sometimes I got stuck at one level for days together, while at times I would easily cross levels in the first attempt. The lives (opportunities) I got for each level were limited. So I needed to make my moves very carefully or else my opportunity to go to the next level would be lost. There were several permutations and combinations; hence every time, I needed to plan a strategy to make a correct move. Sometimes, I succeeded while at times, I failed. The most thrilling part was when there was 1 candy left to be crushed in 3 moves! When you get involved in a game, it becomes imperative to win that game.

If a computer or a phone game is so important in our life, what about life itself? Being a Life Coach I feel each and every thing happening in our life teaches us a valuable lessons and this game is not an exception.

Here are 5 life lessons Candy Crush has taught me:

  1. MOVE ON:

Life will always pose challenges at every step. The real key lies is facing those challenges and moving on to the next level.

  1. LIFE IS FULL OF SURPRISES:  

At every juncture life will throw surprises at you. The real strength lies in how we handle those. Life will also bring in tiny parcels of happiness. Don’t forget to celebrate those moments.

  1. TIME IS LIMITED:  

Our life-time on this Earth is limited. Opportunities will come and go. We need to brace ourselves to take advantage of these opportunities.

Like the game, our life too will pose challenges at every step. The real key lies is facing them and moving on to the next level.

Like the game, our life too will pose challenges at every step. The real key lies is facing them and moving on to the next level.

  1. MAKE THE CORRECT MOVE:

We cannot afford to waste our time and energy in making wrong moves. Because one wrong move can take us to a different set of possibilities which may or may not lead to our destination.

  1. PLAN A STRATEGY:

It is very important to plan a strategy. Life’s moments are slipping by. So we need to strategically plan life to make the most of it.

Happy crushing! Don’t miss these lessons when you play Candy Crush next time.