Spirituality beyond assumptions

Breaking stereotypes!

The past few weeks has seen an offbeat online campaign doing the rounds. It showcases girls and boys holding a whiteboard in different settings, the white board has a message that busts a common prejudice. Cheek and thought-provoking, the campaign has really inspired me to write this blog.

Since, I changed my job and went into the line of spirituality; I have heard all negative opinions or false perceptions about spirituality. Today, my blog is aimed at #breakingstereotypes about spirituality.

Myth 1: To be spiritual, one needs to be secluded

You can be spiritual wherever you are

You can be spiritual wherever you are

One of the biggest myths about spirituality is that you need to get away from normal human civilization. This is the biggest lie of the century. You don’t need to go to the Himalayas or any other spiritual place to be spiritual. It goes beyond space and circumstances. Spirituality is just a way of life. It is nothing but living from your heart and going with the flow of the universe. It can be practiced even in the midst of chaos. Keeping away from friends and family is definitely not a compulsion!

Myth 2: One can’t enjoy materialistic things or cannot live a modern life if spiritual

There is nothing wrong with being ambitious or wanting a fancy car or a big house. In fact, spirituality tells us that we are here to enjoy and celebrate life. The universe has abundance and you can receive anything you want. One should not feel guilty if one is involved in the business of earning money or material wealth, as long as you do it honestly and with detachment.

Myth 3: Spiritual people need to be “serious” at all times

I have heard many people say that spiritual people shouldn’t speak loudly, laugh too much or act like immaturely. In reality, not all spiritual people are serious. In fact, if your core personality involves talking and laughing loudly, you should never give it up! Have you heard of the concept of Inner Child? It says, each one of us has a little child within us. We need to pamper and give attention to that child in order to remain happy. Great Sufis and saints have been child-like and had no qualms about playing with little children. Life is beautiful, and we must acknowledge it and be happy. One needn’t behave in a certain way just because he is spiritual.

Myth 4: Spirituality is only possible in a guru-shishya environment

You don’t need to follow a sect or spiritual guru to be spiritual. All you need is an inquisitive mind, and you will get the answers. Whenever you need the guidance, the universe will send you the right people, opportunities and events to help you find your answers.

My attempt at busting a myth!

My attempt at busting a myth!

 Myth 5: You need to follow the spiritual dress code

Another common misconception is that spiritual people need to wear flowing clothes or robes. I have been told, many a times, “How can you be in the spiritual line if you wear jeans and a t-shirt?”

According to me, clothing is just a choice and does not reflect a person’s way of being. Especially, in today’s age! Spirituality does not put any restriction on clothing.

Myth 6: You need to follow a religion to be spiritual

In religion, someone experiences the truth and tells it to you. You follow. Spirituality is experiencing the truth yourself. Religion, cast, creed has nothing to do with spirituality. There are numerous paths that can take you to the same goal. You can even create your own path.

Myth 7: People are inclined towards spirituality only if something goes wrong

I have seen perfectly happy people having the desire and yearning to know more about life. They are determined to go higher on spiritual levels. Spirituality is not just something to come out of your problems, but a way of life.

Myth 8: Spirituality is for oldies only

In one of my workshops, the youngest participant was 16-year-old and the oldest one was 92. I even know of a girl who is a past life regression therapist since she was 18. She is full of life and has given life advice to people four times her age!

Some people think spirituality is only for their old age. This is another untruth. Age has nothing to do with spirituality. You could be of any age, when you start on this path.

According to me, children are natural meditators and very spiritual

According to me, children are natural meditators and very spiritual

My only purpose of listing out all these stereotypes is so people do not make the mistake of generalization. There surely are people who fall into the category of these stereotypes but that doesn’t mean all spiritual people are the same.

If you are looking for answers about your life and seek a path, don’t be influenced by what is popular or by other’s opinion. You should determine what is right for you and follow that. Let your inner wisdom be your guiding light. And keep in mind not to judge others on their path either.

Beat work stress in just 12 minutes


Mounting pressure at work got you pulling your hair out? Know that you are not alone. Recent statistics show that stress is the number one lifestyle risk among Indian employees. The rising stress at workplaces is causing an array of physical issues as well as psychological problems. From high BP, diabetes, pains and aches and insomnia to depression, fears, anxiety, fatigue, lethargy, and many more.

Stress works like a vicious cycle. Each time we experience a stressful situation, we become anxious or fearful, our breathing pattern changes drastically and stress hormones are released in the blood stream. If these stress hormones are not metabolized over time, it can destabilize our normal body functions and lead to emotional and mental issues. This in turn leads to more stress. This effect can be reversed at an early stage of the cycle. The most effective way to do this through our breath.

The fact is astonishing; 70% of our metabolic waste is eliminated through breathing; the balance 30% is eliminated through perspiration (19%), urination (8%) and defecation (3%).Our body gets the energy to purify, rid itself of toxins and stresses, and to rejuvenate because of our breath. Yet very few of us pay attention to it; rather how we breathe. However, correct breathing allows us to access unlimited amounts of energy, which we can use to carry out the repair work within us.According to life coach, PLR therapist and author of the bestselling book KEYS, Santosh Joshi, the 12-minute SKY Healing technique allows you to do just that.

He says, “A combination of tapping, breathing and visualization, SKY is a quick and effective method that instantly reduces your stress. The best part is that it takes only takes 12 minutes. If practiced regularly, it perfectly harmonizes the body, mind and soul.”

For instance, you have an important presentation to make and are feeling very anxious about it, doing SKY will automatically make you feel better, bring down your anxiety, give you confidence and allow you to focus better. This new-age technique is especially for professionals who don’t have time for other time-consuming stress-relief processes.

Jyotsna Nair, an HR consultant, says, “I suffered from insomnia for many years. SKY has cured it and is a confidence booster to me. I am no more affected by the work pressure at my office. I am self-motivated and driven to achieve my goals.”

Another SKY practitioner from Delhi, Dr Latika Sharma, a microbiologist attached to AIIMS, says, “SKY has helped heal my cervical spondylosis and other my aches and pains.”


Santosh adds, “Since it liberates us from negative emotions, which is the root cause of our physical diseases, we also heal physically. By practicing SKY, people have recovered from phantom pains, diabetes and blood pressure issues and many others lifestyle diseases.”

Even the visualizations during SKY are so effective that it helps manifesting whatever we are looking for, be it professional growth, material gains, better relationships, etc. On the whole, the technique shows you your highest potential.

This blog also appeared in Speaking Tree{Time Of India Publication} on 11th May 2014.

Here’s a demonstrative link to the exclusive SKYPRO workshop video.


Meditation – A way of life


Meditation is perhaps the most talked-about word amongst today’s ‘spiritual’ populace. The problem is that it is also the most misunderstood word. Each person will have his or her own definition or understanding about what meditation stands for. There’s nothing wrong in this as long as everyone is practicing what is being preached. However, most often the truth is otherwise.

Few thoughts on meditation we all get from time to time…

  • I know meditation is great for my mind, body, and spirit. I deeply feel the need to practice meditation daily.
  • Many times I think randomly, “I should meditate at-least sometime,” but when it comes down to it, I really don’t.
  • I strongly suspect I’m not the only one who feels this way.
  • I’ve read many books on how to meditate or I have attended many meditation classes, however it doesn’t help.
  • I also know all those ways to meditate feel like work

If you get similar thoughts as well, you are definitely not alone. In fact, you will be a part of the majority. If that makes you feel good… great! Most of us will be feeling the same way about meditation. Meditation is work; meditation is boring; meditation is time consuming; meditation is only for a few special people; it’s for people who love mysticism; Meditation is a part of religion or religious activity. These are all the examples of common misconceptions about meditation. These are also the most often used excuses for not meditating.

But let me tell you, meditation is not all that hard. Believe me. Once we make up our mind, we just need to find a quite place. That’s it. We don’t really have to do anything. As a matter of fact meditation is actually going from ‘doing something’ to ‘not doing anything’. Even if we are able to experience the present moment to its fullest by just “Being”, that’s enough. Meditation is a process which takes us from “doing” to “being”. After reading many scriptures, books, practicing various types of meditations and interactions with masters, my personal experience is that whatever is hard to do is simply not meditation. I have found that the simplest and easiest way, which is also very effective, to meditate is through introspection or “just being”. It takes away the importance normally given to the knowledge of doctrines, scriptures, etc. before starting to meditate, making it extremely simple for a first timer. I have observed that most of the time, lot of importance is given to what you know about meditation or how it is practiced, or it’s good, bad, and side effects. This really creates a false aura around meditation, which makes a new comer really think whether this should be taken up or whether this can really be followed regularly; or what if one is not following or practicing it regularly. In reality, anyone… I repeat, “anyone” can practice meditation, whenever he or she can, without any limitations of place, time, type of clothes, method, posture what so ever. It’s that easy. Let’s not make it complicated… really. Even a little child can just be… or an old person for that matter. Lao Tzu, a mystic philosopher of ancient China said, “The way to do is to be.” We can call this self observation… meaning just observing the breath for example, or the how beautifully the wind flows making the leaves of a tree sway, or the blueness of the sky, or sound of a bird. We can even observe our own thoughts, how beautifully they are woven; one leading to the other.