True Freedom

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Our country achieved freedom from foreign rule 67 years back, but have we attained true freedom yet…?

As a life coach I come across  many people during my talks and workshops. The one thing I find common in most of them is that they are not free. Rather, most are imprisoned in the self created web of guilts, regrets, hurts, fears, self doubts, limiting self beliefs, etc. This happens with all of us. The web gets denser and stronger day by day, and a point comes when we feel impossible to break through it and get out. We become prisoners.

I know of a lady who has gone through lot of suffering in her life for almost a decade after her marriage. She was married in a joint family and was ill-treated by her in-laws. As a result she went through a lot of trauma. After about 10 years of marriage the couple moved out of the house and the family business into an independent life. But even today when we meet she talks only about those 10 years of distress in her life.

Once she told me , “I want to try your PLR therapy. I am curious to find out how my in-laws were related to me in my past birth. They have made my life miserable.”

“Sure we can. But what is the problem now? You are the master of your own life . I feel it is high time you let go of the past.” I replied.

“You don’t understand. It is easier said than done. They have spoiled 10 beautiful years of my life. How can I let go?” she said somewhat irritated.

I realized that she had completely ensconced herself in the self created web of victimhood. So much so that she was thriving on the sympathy gained from people around her and was comfortable living that way.

When we are born, we are free spirits. We can easily cry, laugh , make mistakes, forgive people, and let go. we don’t carry any baggage. Hence as a child we can experience freedom. Nothing is impossible for a small child. He is ready to explore anything because he lives in that space of ‘freedom’, where everything is a possibility.

Then what happens as we grow…? We are told, ” you are a grown up boy now and boys are not supposed to cry!” or “you are a girl, you are not supposed to laugh so loudly!”,” What will people say?”, “you should do this and you shouldn’t do this”. ” you cannot think in a particular way” and stuff like that…Our life slowly gets defined by the dos and don’ts of the society. Without realizing we get moulded in a way people  around us want us to. Even the freedom of thoughts is taken away from us. We are supposed to think how other people want us to think. Sounds ridiculous, but its true, and we start living a life of others. Slowly we start thinking that this is how life has to be lived, in a set pattern, confined and defined by the society, caged in the negative beliefs.

To experience true freedom we need to go back to the time when we were born…. by stripping off the layers of conditioning around us and letting free that inner child. Do what we always wanted to do in life rather than being dictated by others around us. We must realize our true potential to achieve greatness in life. We need to break free from the cage of dogmas, set patterns limited self beliefs, feeling of being victim, helplessness, fears, deceits and other negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, resentment, guilt, and regret….. and live as if “Sky is Not the Limit”…..  in True Freedom.

Understanding health and healing

Don’t shy away from spirituality; it is the doorway to unlimited possibilities.

Don’t shy away from spirituality; it is the doorway to unlimited possibilities.

The build of the modern world is such that most people are fixated on their physical health but completely ignore every other aspect of health. People eat and drink the right things, work out regularly and consult their doctor for the slightest physical problem, yet they manage to fall ill. How could that be? The reason being, the state of our physical body is not the best parameter to judge our health. World Health Organization (WHO) describes health as ‘a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.’

According to me, there are two more aspects to health – emotional and spiritual well-being. A healthy person is one who is complete and whole in all these five aspects:

  1. Physical
  2. Emotional
  3. Mental or psychological
  4. Social and
  5. Spiritual

These five aspects are intertwined and an imbalance in any one causes a setback in health. The first and largely understood aspect is physical health which is maintained with proper nutrition, hygiene and exercise. Emotional health depends on letting-go, forgiveness and gratitude. Psychological health depends on one’s attitude, the right thoughts and passion. An often ignored aspect is social health which is dependent on giving back to society, helping others and leaving a legacy. Spiritual good health can be achieved when you find your purpose, understand life’s patterns and live in the moment.

Only when we are complete in all these respects can we call ourselves healthy; however, if we lack in even one of these, then we are unhealthy. For instance, when we are physically ill, we feel low emotionally, can’t concentrate on what we do and temporarily lose passion for everything. On the other hand, when we go through an emotional turmoil, many a times our physical health gets affected. Also when you perform a good deed you feel lighter, emotionally you feel content and physically charged up.

The significance of the spiritual health is often understated. It is the binding factor between all the five aspects. This can be understood easily if compared to a pyramid. A pyramid is said to be one of the more stable structures. But this stability depends on the five vertices. Our health too, depends on five vertices – physical health, emotional health, mental health and social health being the bottom ones and spiritual health, the top. The bottom four vertices may seem the most important but without the top vertex, the structure will have no shape. Similarly, spirituality gives energy to the other aspects of health.  It is the guiding force.

Jyoti Matange, a Mumbaite, attended my SKY healing workshop last year. She had high blood sugar levels and was on medication however, her intention of joining the workshop was spiritual growth. After practicing SKY for 21 days, her stress levels came down drastically and she felt peaceful and content. Her goal of spiritual progress was achieved and in her words, her ‘blood sugar levels came back to normal as a bonus’. She is off the medication now.

Stress is the biggest challenge our generation faces today. It causes an imbalance in all five aspects of health. So, always try to keep a balance in life. Forgive and let go of your past baggage, be thankful for what you have, do what you love, and don’t shy away from spirituality; it is the doorway to unlimited possibilities.

Breathe into an extraordinary life

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As soon as we start living from our inner consciousness, we start on the upward emotional spiral; at the peak of which is the feeling of freedom, love, joy and peace.

It is human tendency to neglect things that we do not control. For instance, have you ever wondered how our digestive system works? Not the science behind the mechanism but have you ever appreciated how it separates all the nutrients from the food we eat and manages to digest even the most complex food that we eat. These days our body has to even deal with the diverse range of chemicals that accompany our food. Of course, at times, our digestive system does not cooperate and we suffer from illnesses. But most of the time, it functions without a glitch, whether we are conscious about it or not.

The same goes for our breath. We are never really conscious of our breathing pattern or how it is helping us in our day to life.

Take a few moments to reflect on this statement – 70% of our metabolic waste is eliminated through breathing; the balance 30% is eliminated through perspiration (19%), urination (8%) and defecation (3%).

The fact is astonishing; most people are surprised at this statement. Our body gets the energy to purify, getting rid of toxins and stresses, and to rejuvenate us because of our breath. Yet very few of us pay attention to our breath, rather how we breathe. However, correct breathing allows us to access unlimited amounts of energy, which we can use to carry out the repair work within us, and also to take us at higher levels.

SKY Healing technique is one method which allows you to do just that.

Most of the time, we are living from our outer consciousness; which is made up of our karma, experiences, memories and conditioning. Practicing SKY helps in breaking the layers of conditioning and living through our inner consciousness or soul.

As soon as we start living from our inner consciousness, we release our fears, stresses, insecurities, and all the other worldly worries. No matter how depressed or angry we were, we start on the upward emotional spiral; at the peak of which is the feeling of freedom, love, joy and peace.

The one feedback I have received from maximum SKY practitioners is that they feel this peace. Their life is no longer governed by negative emotions.

Since it keeps us completely free from negative emotions, which is the root cause of our physical diseases, we also heal the physical issues. I have heard of people healing phantom pains, diabetes, blood pressure issues, among others.

SKY has the potential of bringing harmony in our body, mind and soul. One can heal and also experience inner transformation and spiritual growth. All because of practicing a 12-minute breathing pattern. That’s the power of breath.

Meditation – A way of life

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Meditation is perhaps the most talked-about word amongst today’s ‘spiritual’ populace. The problem is that it is also the most misunderstood word. Each person will have his or her own definition or understanding about what meditation stands for. There’s nothing wrong in this as long as everyone is practicing what is being preached. However, most often the truth is otherwise.

Few thoughts on meditation we all get from time to time…

  • I know meditation is great for my mind, body, and spirit. I deeply feel the need to practice meditation daily.
  • Many times I think randomly, “I should meditate at-least sometime,” but when it comes down to it, I really don’t.
  • I strongly suspect I’m not the only one who feels this way.
  • I’ve read many books on how to meditate or I have attended many meditation classes, however it doesn’t help.
  • I also know all those ways to meditate feel like work

If you get similar thoughts as well, you are definitely not alone. In fact, you will be a part of the majority. If that makes you feel good… great! Most of us will be feeling the same way about meditation. Meditation is work; meditation is boring; meditation is time consuming; meditation is only for a few special people; it’s for people who love mysticism; Meditation is a part of religion or religious activity. These are all the examples of common misconceptions about meditation. These are also the most often used excuses for not meditating.

But let me tell you, meditation is not all that hard. Believe me. Once we make up our mind, we just need to find a quite place. That’s it. We don’t really have to do anything. As a matter of fact meditation is actually going from ‘doing something’ to ‘not doing anything’. Even if we are able to experience the present moment to its fullest by just “Being”, that’s enough. Meditation is a process which takes us from “doing” to “being”. After reading many scriptures, books, practicing various types of meditations and interactions with masters, my personal experience is that whatever is hard to do is simply not meditation. I have found that the simplest and easiest way, which is also very effective, to meditate is through introspection or “just being”. It takes away the importance normally given to the knowledge of doctrines, scriptures, etc. before starting to meditate, making it extremely simple for a first timer. I have observed that most of the time, lot of importance is given to what you know about meditation or how it is practiced, or it’s good, bad, and side effects. This really creates a false aura around meditation, which makes a new comer really think whether this should be taken up or whether this can really be followed regularly; or what if one is not following or practicing it regularly. In reality, anyone… I repeat, “anyone” can practice meditation, whenever he or she can, without any limitations of place, time, type of clothes, method, posture what so ever. It’s that easy. Let’s not make it complicated… really. Even a little child can just be… or an old person for that matter. Lao Tzu, a mystic philosopher of ancient China said, “The way to do is to be.” We can call this self observation… meaning just observing the breath for example, or the how beautifully the wind flows making the leaves of a tree sway, or the blueness of the sky, or sound of a bird. We can even observe our own thoughts, how beautifully they are woven; one leading to the other.