True Freedom

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Our country achieved freedom from foreign rule 67 years back, but have we attained true freedom yet…?

As a life coach I come across  many people during my talks and workshops. The one thing I find common in most of them is that they are not free. Rather, most are imprisoned in the self created web of guilts, regrets, hurts, fears, self doubts, limiting self beliefs, etc. This happens with all of us. The web gets denser and stronger day by day, and a point comes when we feel impossible to break through it and get out. We become prisoners.

I know of a lady who has gone through lot of suffering in her life for almost a decade after her marriage. She was married in a joint family and was ill-treated by her in-laws. As a result she went through a lot of trauma. After about 10 years of marriage the couple moved out of the house and the family business into an independent life. But even today when we meet she talks only about those 10 years of distress in her life.

Once she told me , “I want to try your PLR therapy. I am curious to find out how my in-laws were related to me in my past birth. They have made my life miserable.”

“Sure we can. But what is the problem now? You are the master of your own life . I feel it is high time you let go of the past.” I replied.

“You don’t understand. It is easier said than done. They have spoiled 10 beautiful years of my life. How can I let go?” she said somewhat irritated.

I realized that she had completely ensconced herself in the self created web of victimhood. So much so that she was thriving on the sympathy gained from people around her and was comfortable living that way.

When we are born, we are free spirits. We can easily cry, laugh , make mistakes, forgive people, and let go. we don’t carry any baggage. Hence as a child we can experience freedom. Nothing is impossible for a small child. He is ready to explore anything because he lives in that space of ‘freedom’, where everything is a possibility.

Then what happens as we grow…? We are told, ” you are a grown up boy now and boys are not supposed to cry!” or “you are a girl, you are not supposed to laugh so loudly!”,” What will people say?”, “you should do this and you shouldn’t do this”. ” you cannot think in a particular way” and stuff like that…Our life slowly gets defined by the dos and don’ts of the society. Without realizing we get moulded in a way people  around us want us to. Even the freedom of thoughts is taken away from us. We are supposed to think how other people want us to think. Sounds ridiculous, but its true, and we start living a life of others. Slowly we start thinking that this is how life has to be lived, in a set pattern, confined and defined by the society, caged in the negative beliefs.

To experience true freedom we need to go back to the time when we were born…. by stripping off the layers of conditioning around us and letting free that inner child. Do what we always wanted to do in life rather than being dictated by others around us. We must realize our true potential to achieve greatness in life. We need to break free from the cage of dogmas, set patterns limited self beliefs, feeling of being victim, helplessness, fears, deceits and other negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, resentment, guilt, and regret….. and live as if “Sky is Not the Limit”…..  in True Freedom.

Spirituality beyond assumptions

Breaking stereotypes!

The past few weeks has seen an offbeat online campaign doing the rounds. It showcases girls and boys holding a whiteboard in different settings, the white board has a message that busts a common prejudice. Cheek and thought-provoking, the campaign has really inspired me to write this blog.

Since, I changed my job and went into the line of spirituality; I have heard all negative opinions or false perceptions about spirituality. Today, my blog is aimed at #breakingstereotypes about spirituality.

Myth 1: To be spiritual, one needs to be secluded

You can be spiritual wherever you are

You can be spiritual wherever you are

One of the biggest myths about spirituality is that you need to get away from normal human civilization. This is the biggest lie of the century. You don’t need to go to the Himalayas or any other spiritual place to be spiritual. It goes beyond space and circumstances. Spirituality is just a way of life. It is nothing but living from your heart and going with the flow of the universe. It can be practiced even in the midst of chaos. Keeping away from friends and family is definitely not a compulsion!

Myth 2: One can’t enjoy materialistic things or cannot live a modern life if spiritual

There is nothing wrong with being ambitious or wanting a fancy car or a big house. In fact, spirituality tells us that we are here to enjoy and celebrate life. The universe has abundance and you can receive anything you want. One should not feel guilty if one is involved in the business of earning money or material wealth, as long as you do it honestly and with detachment.

Myth 3: Spiritual people need to be “serious” at all times

I have heard many people say that spiritual people shouldn’t speak loudly, laugh too much or act like immaturely. In reality, not all spiritual people are serious. In fact, if your core personality involves talking and laughing loudly, you should never give it up! Have you heard of the concept of Inner Child? It says, each one of us has a little child within us. We need to pamper and give attention to that child in order to remain happy. Great Sufis and saints have been child-like and had no qualms about playing with little children. Life is beautiful, and we must acknowledge it and be happy. One needn’t behave in a certain way just because he is spiritual.

Myth 4: Spirituality is only possible in a guru-shishya environment

You don’t need to follow a sect or spiritual guru to be spiritual. All you need is an inquisitive mind, and you will get the answers. Whenever you need the guidance, the universe will send you the right people, opportunities and events to help you find your answers.

My attempt at busting a myth!

My attempt at busting a myth!

 Myth 5: You need to follow the spiritual dress code

Another common misconception is that spiritual people need to wear flowing clothes or robes. I have been told, many a times, “How can you be in the spiritual line if you wear jeans and a t-shirt?”

According to me, clothing is just a choice and does not reflect a person’s way of being. Especially, in today’s age! Spirituality does not put any restriction on clothing.

Myth 6: You need to follow a religion to be spiritual

In religion, someone experiences the truth and tells it to you. You follow. Spirituality is experiencing the truth yourself. Religion, cast, creed has nothing to do with spirituality. There are numerous paths that can take you to the same goal. You can even create your own path.

Myth 7: People are inclined towards spirituality only if something goes wrong

I have seen perfectly happy people having the desire and yearning to know more about life. They are determined to go higher on spiritual levels. Spirituality is not just something to come out of your problems, but a way of life.

Myth 8: Spirituality is for oldies only

In one of my workshops, the youngest participant was 16-year-old and the oldest one was 92. I even know of a girl who is a past life regression therapist since she was 18. She is full of life and has given life advice to people four times her age!

Some people think spirituality is only for their old age. This is another untruth. Age has nothing to do with spirituality. You could be of any age, when you start on this path.

According to me, children are natural meditators and very spiritual

According to me, children are natural meditators and very spiritual

My only purpose of listing out all these stereotypes is so people do not make the mistake of generalization. There surely are people who fall into the category of these stereotypes but that doesn’t mean all spiritual people are the same.

If you are looking for answers about your life and seek a path, don’t be influenced by what is popular or by other’s opinion. You should determine what is right for you and follow that. Let your inner wisdom be your guiding light. And keep in mind not to judge others on their path either.